Do you stop in at Coffee Hour after worship on Sundays? Believe it or not, Coffee Hour is an important part of the fabric of our Christian community. Carol and Ed Miller and our rotating hosts and hostesses work very hard to make it a time of refreshment and nourishment. I am so grateful for their ministry!
It is also an important time of connection. This is where relationships form and we get a chance to “find out” about each other. Coming and going on Sundays for worship only is understandable, and sometimes necessary, but it is hard to find your place in a church community without taking the time to know and be known by others.
I know that this is hard for many people. I know that the introverts among us would rather not enter a space filled with other people, many of them that they do not know. But, I ask you to give it a try….to enter that space and have a “3 Minute Conversation”. That’s all…just 3 minutes with someone new to you.
What can that achieve? Well, many of us come to Coffee Hour and immediately sit down with our friends and those with whom we have church “business” to take care of. That is fine, and encouraged…but leaves many on the “outside” looking in. If we all do our best to have one “3 Minute Conversation” with someone we don’t know after church, we will strengthen our community by building relationships within. I encourage you to take the risk and give it a try.
What can I say ? Well, first, introduce yourself. Then, ask a question: “Have you been coming to St. David’s for very long?” “Where do you live?” “Where were you brought up?” “How did you find this church?” “What brings you to St. David’s?” “What do you enjoy doing?”….you get it. Easy, soft-ball questions. And then be curious and ask a follow up question or two. Perhaps this could be your “Lenten Discipline”.
You will be surprised by what you will learn and how this simple practice will increase the bonds within our community as well as creating a more welcoming space for newcomers. Connecting with newcomers helps them answer these questions: Where do I fit in? Can I make friends in this church? Is there room for me relationally? Does this church need, me? Can I find a place to belong, and serve? Am I safe here?
When we reach out with genuine interest to those who are new to St. David’s, we let them know that this is a place where they are welcome and a place where their spiritual needs as well as their need for belonging will be honored.
Each of us is an ambassador for this church—on Sundays and all week long. I hope you will take that ministry seriously and reach out, connect and find out about not only your fellow church members but also visitors to our church.